Owning My Androgyny

  Before the skimpy facial hair and little bit of muscles that I have now, I often used to get questioned about my gender.   People have asked many times whether I am a boy or a girl, and when I answer their question they almost always follow up with an apology and some variation of, "You're just so pretty."

  In a world where stereotypical masculinity and strong societal gender roles reign heavy, the question used to make me upset.  I'm not supposed to be pretty, I'm supposed to be handsome, right?  I used to get embarrassed and offended.  Kids in school would turn the question into a joke, saying things like "why do you look like a girl?"

As a child, it's hard to come up with answers to such questions.  

  The social media surge that continues to thrive has exposed me to countless individuals who present as androgynous, and own it.  I've learned that it isn't something to fear or be ashamed of, but rather something to embrace, and I often express it through my fashion. 

Statement accessories and a good pair of boots are some of my go-to's. 

For this look, I'm wearing a pair of thrifted high-waisted jeans jeans, along with a thrifted black top that is slightly translucent.  My belts and glasses are also thrifted, and my shell choker was purchased from a cultural festival.  My boots are by Giorgio Brutini. 

When dressing to express my fluidity, I draw a lot of inspiration from the 80s & 90s, and from some of my favorite musicians.  Janet Jackson is by far one of my favorite performers of all time, and the fashion statements she made in some of her videos and on album covers still resonate with me today.  I also draw a lot of inspiration from the countless throwback and vintage couture pages that fill instagram and tumblr. 

So many designers are now making entire collections that can be worn by anyone, regardless of gender.  I believe this is because true fashion knows no boundaries.  Part of living life to the fullest is dressing like theres no tomorrow.  Take risks and push the limit by wearing looks that are bold, and nostalgic.  Regardless of whether a piece of clothing is in the men's or women's section, if you like it, wear it!  Don't be afraid to draw inspiration from some of your favorite throwbacks, and most of all have fun!

I pulled my top off one shoulder and tied a knot at the bottom to make the look a bit more dramatic.  With the weather warming up, don't be afraid to show some skin!